CGP
04-12-2008, 05:54 PM
As hatred for the Hillary Clinton Forum grows amongst Obama fans who behave disgracefully, and who fear what this forum is achieving or may achieve, I think it's important to take note of the sentiments expressed in the article below. Always better to take the high ground and to understand the sad place from which haters spread their venom. I have reproduced, in part, this great article from a blogger who talks about his personal experience of being on the receiving end of hatred and jealousy in his own life (nothing to do with the current election...).
http://theflipfloplifestyle.com/2008/01/30/dealing-with-haters-and-negativity/
Recently I have had some comments on this blog that have been negative in nature that I was forced to remove from the site. When I started this blog, it was intended as an open forum and I had no intention of censoring any input and limiting discussion in any way. For the sake of my ever growing readership however, I am obligated to moderate each comment and eliminate the childish and profanity ridden drivel that has been posted recently.
The comments themselves don’t affect me and normally I wouldn’t validate them with any sort of response but as I thought about it, I realized there is a lesson here that may benefit many people who may find themselves in a similar situation. The unfortunate fact of the matter is that as you progress and grow in your professional life, your spiritual life and in your personal life there are going to be people in this world that start to dislike you for what you have accomplished or what you are trying to accomplish.
It’s sad indeed that there are people who will take pleasure in seeing you stumble or worse, actively try and do you some sort of harm. At first you may not imagine that this would be the case, but the minute you make the decision to excel or achieve at a level beyond the status quo, you become a target for small minded and ineffective individuals that hate to see anyone try and better themselves.
This can come in many forms - perhaps it is the person at your job who is in line for the same managerial position as you and may try to sabotage your advancement instead of just doing the best they can. Maybe it is one of your friends or family who simply tells you over and over that you can’t start your own business and succeed. Maybe it’s people in chat rooms and on forums who bad mouth you merely because you are starting to make a name for yourself.
Whatever the case may be, the more you succeed and the more you put yourself out there, there more some individuals will hate you for what you earn, for what you have and even for who you are with. If you are happy and successful, there will be people who are jealous of you and what you have been able to achieve. The trick is to not pay them any attention. Realize the situation for what it is - they lash out at you simply because they can not have what you have or do what you are trying to do, and in an effort to sooth their own self-loathing and make themselves feel better about their own pathetic existence, they derive some sort of perverted satisfaction in attempting to make you look bad.
It’s sad, really. The only thing that you can do is ignore it and focus on your own life. Paying attention to what a few unfortunate individuals think or say about you only gives them energy. If you divert your attention and focus on their negativity, they have accomplished what they set out to do. It can be difficult at first, especially if you are unaccustomed to this sort of mentality, but believe me it can only distract you from hitting your goals.
It is a sad insight on the more negative side of human psychology. I actually get a chuckle out of everything now, though. The mere thought of those poor lost souls sitting alone in their homes Googling my name repeatedly, hoping to find something they can cling to that will support their delusional desires for my downfall makes me laugh out loud whenever I think about it. It is truly sorry that anyone would have an existence so barren and so pathetic that a portion of their happiness in life revolves around the hope that I may someday fail. Living well and being happy is truly the best revenge.
And to anyone who may encounter personal negativity in their own journey, remember that these people are annoying at best. They have absolutely no bearing on your eventual success and are inconsequential bumps in the spiritual universe. They may scheme and gossip but pay them no mind - focus on the task at hand and you will ultimately succeed.
http://theflipfloplifestyle.com/2008/01/30/dealing-with-haters-and-negativity/
Recently I have had some comments on this blog that have been negative in nature that I was forced to remove from the site. When I started this blog, it was intended as an open forum and I had no intention of censoring any input and limiting discussion in any way. For the sake of my ever growing readership however, I am obligated to moderate each comment and eliminate the childish and profanity ridden drivel that has been posted recently.
The comments themselves don’t affect me and normally I wouldn’t validate them with any sort of response but as I thought about it, I realized there is a lesson here that may benefit many people who may find themselves in a similar situation. The unfortunate fact of the matter is that as you progress and grow in your professional life, your spiritual life and in your personal life there are going to be people in this world that start to dislike you for what you have accomplished or what you are trying to accomplish.
It’s sad indeed that there are people who will take pleasure in seeing you stumble or worse, actively try and do you some sort of harm. At first you may not imagine that this would be the case, but the minute you make the decision to excel or achieve at a level beyond the status quo, you become a target for small minded and ineffective individuals that hate to see anyone try and better themselves.
This can come in many forms - perhaps it is the person at your job who is in line for the same managerial position as you and may try to sabotage your advancement instead of just doing the best they can. Maybe it is one of your friends or family who simply tells you over and over that you can’t start your own business and succeed. Maybe it’s people in chat rooms and on forums who bad mouth you merely because you are starting to make a name for yourself.
Whatever the case may be, the more you succeed and the more you put yourself out there, there more some individuals will hate you for what you earn, for what you have and even for who you are with. If you are happy and successful, there will be people who are jealous of you and what you have been able to achieve. The trick is to not pay them any attention. Realize the situation for what it is - they lash out at you simply because they can not have what you have or do what you are trying to do, and in an effort to sooth their own self-loathing and make themselves feel better about their own pathetic existence, they derive some sort of perverted satisfaction in attempting to make you look bad.
It’s sad, really. The only thing that you can do is ignore it and focus on your own life. Paying attention to what a few unfortunate individuals think or say about you only gives them energy. If you divert your attention and focus on their negativity, they have accomplished what they set out to do. It can be difficult at first, especially if you are unaccustomed to this sort of mentality, but believe me it can only distract you from hitting your goals.
It is a sad insight on the more negative side of human psychology. I actually get a chuckle out of everything now, though. The mere thought of those poor lost souls sitting alone in their homes Googling my name repeatedly, hoping to find something they can cling to that will support their delusional desires for my downfall makes me laugh out loud whenever I think about it. It is truly sorry that anyone would have an existence so barren and so pathetic that a portion of their happiness in life revolves around the hope that I may someday fail. Living well and being happy is truly the best revenge.
And to anyone who may encounter personal negativity in their own journey, remember that these people are annoying at best. They have absolutely no bearing on your eventual success and are inconsequential bumps in the spiritual universe. They may scheme and gossip but pay them no mind - focus on the task at hand and you will ultimately succeed.